Old Wive's Tales
I grew up checking the color of the sky at night and inspecting it again in the morning. Examining my tongue in the mirror to see if it really had turned purple and swearing up down and sideways that my sister's tongue had a tell tale tinge to it.
My parent's country wisdom taught me that you were not supposed to lie, you never hurt someone when they were down, and that you took time to help your neighbor out. By the time I could walk their wise old folklore sayings were embedded deep into my subconscious thought.
It was a taste of moral values learned the good old fashioned way. I cannot count the times that my dad went off to help a neighbor in need. Whether it was building a shed or plowing a driveway, if they called then he went.
My mom's generosity was also very evident. She was always baking up something for someone or for some special event. If someone was feeling under the weather or moving into a new home she always had a little something special to pass along.
Living in the country we actually had a pretty active social life. There were potlucks, neighbors always stopping by on their way into town, church functions, school functions, and dances down at the local community hall. Mom and dad always carried with them more than what they were asked to bring.
Through their generosity I learned to share simply because it was the right thing to do. You spread a little sunshine where you can and you share your blessings with those who have less than what you are blessed with.
Many of these old proverbs were based on rural farm life.
1. The early bird gets the worm.
2. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.
3. Never look a gift horse in the mouth.
4. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.
5. Don't cry over spilt milk.
6. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
7. Birds of a feather flock together.
8. Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy wealthy and wise.
9. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
10. Don't count your chickens before they hatch.
11. The chickens always come home to roost.
Families were often looked at as a singular unit and the fault of one could easily fall onto the entire family. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree was a saying used to refer to a person spoiled by poor parenting or the carry over of a disreputable ancestry. It sums up to one having either bad genes or poor parenting. It was a saying I heard many times and is also one that I myself have often used.
Most of the lessons I was taught were just simple courtesy. I guess they now refer to this as country hospitality. In rural areas you tended to stand by one another and you rarely turned away someone who was in need.
1. Love what you do and you will never work a day of your life.
2. God helps those who help themselves
3. Beggars can't be choosers.
4. Never slam a door behind you that you may want open in the future.
5. People who live in glass houses should not throw stones.
6. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
7. What goes around comes around.
8. Two wrongs don't make a right. (This is a saying that I often switch around to read: Two wrongs do make a right.)
9. Look at the mother before becoming engaged to the daughter.
Some of those teachings came with a good dose of fear. I am pretty sure that some of those old sayings were created simply to keep kids minding their manners because there are more than a few of these old sayings that had me scared right out of my wits.
May lightening strike me (you) dead was usually used as a test of one's honesty, loyalty, or faith and I truly did believe that I could be killed right there on the spot if I didn't mind my p's and q's. I was terrified if I had to walk home from school in a storm as I was sure that something I had done in the past was going to come back to knock me flat off my feet.
If a wolf howls or a bird hits the window then it is a warning that there is a message of death to come. The entire family would wait in fear to see who was next to meet their untimely fate. To a naive kid growing up in a small community it was all pretty darn scary stuff.
Which brings up a couple more of those oh so dreaded fear inspiring proverbs. I heard quite often the mention of skeletons in the closet and tales of old ghosts coming back to haunt a person when they least expected it. I still have visions of closet doors creaking open and a bunch of skeleton bones falling out onto the floor.
I learned early in life that luck was something one could stumble onto. We had a lucky horseshoe hanging on our wall and I diligently searched for four leaf clovers on my way to and from school. I truly did believe that there was a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow and as a kid I had big dreams of one day finding it.
When it comes to friendship, love, or finding a solution to a problem two heads are always better than one. This saying is so true that it can virtually go without the saying.
Let your conscience be your guide.
When the going gets tough the tough get going.
Your tongue will turn purple if you tell a lie.
The old proverbs were generally based on principles of trust and respect. Honesty is the best policy pretty much sums it up. Telling the truth was how people learned to trust you and that trust was how your reputation was earned.
I am not too sure which of the lessons I learned as a kid were old wives tales, proverbs, or just superstitions but I grew up with a wealth of old fashioned common sense weaved into my moral fiber.
Sometimes I look around today at the things that people are doing and I have to wonder what the heck is going on. I can't help but think a good swift kick from a horse might knock some good old fashioned common sense into them. A little touch of the country life can often be a good thing.