You know that you have to respond but you are not quite sure how to say no I don't want to accept your marriage proposal. It is a question that you certainly didn't expect to hear asked quite so soon. So what happens when you aren't quite ready to marry but the other person is and you suddenly find yourself being asked a question that you just did not want to hear?
If you are receiving a proposal of marriage from someone then it is most likely because you have been in a relationship with them that is enjoyable enough for the other person to want to take it up a step further.
This means that at the very least you are close friends with this significant other person and friends should discuss things honestly and openly with each other. A marriage proposal is simply a question from a friend asking if you are ready to move your relationship into a deeper level of commitment.
Unfortunately strong emotions can quickly move from one direction to another and feelings of hope and excitement can rapidly reverse to disappointment, hurt, and anger. A marriage proposal is a very emotional situation to be handled with diplomacy and tact.
Usually the Proposal Comes From Someone You Class as a Friend
Usually one or the other partner in a relationship does expect to have the question of marriage arise at some point within their relationship but every so often the proposal just comes a little too soon.
Perhaps you still want to pursue your career a little further so don’t feel that you have the time and dedication to truly offer into a full time relationship. Perhaps you are still not sure that this person is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with or perhaps you are just not quite ready to head into marital bliss just yet.
Whatever your reasons for needing to refuse this offer you have to come up with a tactful and honest way of saying no without offending your friend in the process.
It is a very deep honor to have another person offer to spend the rest of their life with you within the sacred vows of marriage. When the marriage proposal is offered it shows a caring and respect for you that merits a reciprocation of that respect.
It is very important to treat the question and your friend with the respect that they deserve. The refusal of a marriage proposal is a situation to be handled with diplomacy and tact.
The emotions that come along with love are deep ones and it can be a very painful experience for someone to have their overtures of love refused. This is where discussing your feelings and theirs becomes very important.
Thank them for asking you, let them know that you are honored to have received such an offer, and then explain your feelings as to why you feel that you must decline. Be as honest and as open as you can be without being insensitive to their feelings.
So Where do You go From Here?
The proposal may now be hanging in the air between you so it is important to put the relationship back into perspective. Remember that you are friends first and that although this new development is pretty major, that it is still just one issue among many that you will need to discuss within your relationship.
Allow and encourage the proposer to discuss their feelings as well as their reasons for asking at this point in time for your hand in marriage. Discussing the proposal honestly and openly with each other will make the refusal much more comfortable to discuss.
Moving forward within a relationship can occur at any point in the future but working at preserving a friendship occurs on a constant basis. If you are not currently ready to advance further in the relationship then say no, but say it with respect. By offering you a proposal of marriage this person has paid you one of the highest compliments that you will receive during your lifetime.
Discuss your feelings and reasons for not accepting but also allow and encourage your friend to discuss their feelings and reasons. Honor this proposal and your friend with all the dignity and respect that this event deserves.
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Marriage Can be a Beautifully Frustrating Place to be
Marriage it is two people guarding each other against the emotional pitfalls of a sometimes topsy turvey world. Debating with each other over the little details of life, comforting each other when it is needed, and clinging to each other for strength when the world seems just too much to face alone.
Marriage is two people joined together through a solemn vow to stand beside, protect, and love one another through all things. It is playing together, crying together, being angry at one another, making love together, laughing together, and forgiving each other.
Marriage is usually a lot more give than take, sacrifices made, and frustrations tucked into the closet to take out on a better day. A good marriage is often the result of a heck of a lot of hard work.
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Sympathy, Encouragement, or Simply Bad Advice?
Single friends are generally there to support you in a time of marital crisis but this can at time not necessarily be a good thing. The grass can look pretty green on the other side of the fence and it can be relatively easy to be encouraged back into the enjoyments of a single lifestyle.
Immediate gratification. It can seem wonderful to have someone fill your immediate emotional or physical needs, no argument or debate, no give or take like there would be with the one at home. It can become so very easy to start to let go of the one at home. So you do.
Then when future problems arise instead of going to your partner for comfort you run to people who say what you want them to say. The rift in the marriage widens and you get one step closer to divorce. It is so easy at the time to forget that these new relationships will over time form into a more realistic human relationship. Eventually they will morph into one that is based on a system of give and take much alike the relationship that you just left. Huh? Well who would have guessed that.
Then the nights change, you realize that you are lonely and you start searching for something more. You discover that you are going out searching for a new mate to replace the one that you walked away from. Sad truth of the matter is that it was just too damn easy to walk away.
You are longing for something that you had in the past, a relationship to replace the one you threw away and you realize that the safety of having someone love you is what you have wanted all along.
Marriage is a major commitment. It is a promise of loyalty and trust that should never be entered into lightly. If you say yes to a marriage proposal then be prepared to hang on for the ride cause it is going to be wild at times.
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