Yelling, screaming, cursing, swearing, and stomping around like a lunatic gone off the deep end. It's an adult temper tantrum.
It is our breaking point, the last straw, the ticking time bomb that ticks out its very last tick. That ultimate end of the patience level and when we arrive at that point we blow up like a long held back geyser in Yellowstone Park.
Adult temper tantrums happen much more frequently then most of us imagine. They are that very loud release of pent up anger or frustration that can leave paint peeling off the walls and family members scooting for safety as far away from the venting adult as possible.
Each and everyone of us at some point has encountered that one moment in time when everything that is nasty finally comes to rap loudly on that finely tuned last nerve of ours.
What Happens When an Adults has a Temper Tantrum?
Acceptable behavior? Not always. Rational? Nope.
Young children are famous for their nasty temper tantrums. Their fits of anger usually occur because young children do not have sufficient language skills to resolve issues which frustrate them.
To get their point across kids will often express their frustration by cutting loose in a good kicking screaming temper tantrum. As children age and learn how to better communicate their temper tantrums occur less often.
Then as adults we learn to successfully use our communication skills to resolve conflicts as they arise. That is how the system is supposed to work but occasionally this theory falls to the roadside.
Can an Adult Temper Tantrum be Acceptable Behavior?
I grew up in the country where it was quite common to hear my father out in the back acres hollering and cursing because he was frustrated with a task gone wrong.
Usually these outbursts meant that what my father had attempted to fix didn't quite turn out the way that he expected or that he had somehow managed to hurt himself.
Like the time he hammered his thumb instead of a nail or the day he threw his back out while fixing a broken fence. Being stubborn as an old mule he wouldn't give up till he finished whatever it was that he had started so in the meantime we got quite an ear full of his rantings.
My father's temper tantrums were generally nothing that anyone in the family was too concerned with. He tended to vent his anger not at us or any other person but instead into the air around him.
Generally my father hollered and cursed at the ground, sky, car, or nearest available fence post. He was never violent toward anything other than the occasional inanimate object so I grew up viewing these outbursts as a genuine means of releasing pent up frustration and perfectly logical behavior.
Acceptable or Unacceptable it Really is a Fine Line
As an adult I see my husband turn into a frustrated little kid every time he sits down at the computer. He hates computers but is forced to put his time sheets through them each week so this is where his temper tantrums emerge.
My husband starts to curse as soon as the screen flickers on and he does not stop till the screen shuts off. His other temper tantrums occur whenever he loses or misplaces something. (No biggie.) I have only once had to tell him to get his tantrums under control.
Perhaps I am more understanding of tantrums which occur out of frustration because I will also have a good hissy fit if the urge strikes me. (Generally they occur because my husband has left something in my pathway and I have tripped over it.)
My general method of keeping myself from venting in his or anyone else's direction is to let loose with a huge lions growl. ROARRRR.... to which my grandchildren if within earshot will usually collapse in giggles. I actually think that they enjoy my lion roar. I have a tendency to also roar when I am in the car and decide to have a small incidence of road rage. No biggie. I'm harmless. I simply growl or ROARRRRR.
It is important to note that adult temper tantrums are not always okay. Adult temper tantrums can be ugly. Other individuals and animals can be hurt emotionally and physically by this behavior. When a person's frustration gets out of control and affects other individuals then it is time for the temper tantrums to stop. No person or creature should be afraid of being hurt. If it is reaching that point then it is time to get your emotions under control.
Play Nice Out There
When Dealing With an Aggressive Individual Stay Calm
When a Temper Tantrum Turns Ugly it Needs to Stop
Embarrassing public displays of temper, road rage, violent outbursts or anger directed maliciously against another person or creature is never acceptable behavior. When a temper tantrum turns ugly then it is time to get your frustrations under control.
The first step in bringing your temper tantrums under control is to acknowledge that your behavior is indeed wrong. You are acting in an aggressive manner and that is always an unacceptable behavior.
You may be frustrated, you may be angry, but there is absolutely no excuse reasonable enough to explain away an act of aggression toward any other living creature. Your emotions are out of control and you are in need of a refresher course in assertive behavior.
You have the right to act assertively in any given situation but you do not have the right to act aggressively. An assertive person stands up for his or her rights without violating the rights of anyone else. When you try to deny someone else their rights then you are acting in an aggressive manner.
Each person has a right to live without fear or intimidation. If you have a temper tantrum, fit of road rage, or an argument involving threatening behavior, then you are violating the rights of another person. You are acting in an aggressive manner.
If you are unable to get your emotional frustrations under control on your own then it may be time for you to seek the help of your family physician. He or she will be able to guide you into a good counseling program.
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